Every relationship involves some degree of conflict and compromise. Every disagreement has two sides. To make relationships work, the goal is to be on the same side. This doesn’t mean you need to agree, but to work toward the same goal.
How do you do this?
- Stop fighting for victory. If one person wins, the other one loses. Each partner is trying to get their own needs met. Instead of struggling to get what you need from your partner, give them what they need.
- Think about what you need. Figure out why you are angry and what you are missing. It usually goes back to unmet childhood needs.
- Share what you need. Find a time when you’re both feeling calm and tell you partner what you need.
Allow yourself to be vulnerable, support each other and give and get the love you need.
“The only people that can ruin a relationship or make that relationship work are the two people in it.” Rob Liano