A person may say or do something to us and we end up taking it personally, even though in reality it has nothing to do with us. For example, how would you feel if each workday started with a criticism from your boss?

The comment could be related to clutter on your desk or regarding the time of your arrival. It’s natural to be sensitive to these digs and feel vulnerable as well as irritated. How would you feel about these comments if you didn’t take them personally?

Try to think about what the comment may mean about the person who said it. Maybe the boss is having trouble at home and has personal relationship problems. Perhaps a spouse has a difficult day at work and feels lack of support from co-workers. It can be useful to try to let someone know when he or she has said something that bothers us. Recognize that what someone says may have more to do with them and less to do with us.

"Remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent."   Eleanor Roosevelt