The idea that true love conquers all comes from and should stay in the storybooks. Love in and of itself, is usually not enough. Healthy relationships and enduring love come from two healthy, whole people.
HEALTHY LOVE IS NOT... HEALTHY LOVE IS...
Two halves making a whole, completing one another or one person satisfying another’s needs Mutual balance of give and take
Total involvement, neglect of interests and old friends Separate interests, maintain other meaningful relationships
Attraction and obsession Development of self-priority first
Preoccupation with other’s behavior Encouragement of each other's continued growth
Possessiveness or jealousy Appropriate trust
Blaming, passive or aggressive manipulation Compromise and negotiation
Love is not supposed to be painful. See relationships not as a goal, but as an opportunity for growth.